I am and always have been an honest, truthful person and I tell it like I see it. If you are my friend and you ask me if the pants make your butt look big (and they do) I am going to tell you that yes, they do. If you don't want the truth, don't ask me. I will not sugar coat anything and just tell you what you want to hear, so don't get offended when I tell you the truth. There are plenty of people who will tell you the opposite to make you feel better about your butt, but I am not one of them.
This was really sparked by a recent conversation with a loved one. Normally our conversations are catch up sessions each week, you know, "how are things and what have you been up to?" and just sharing our lives, like loved ones do. In this case it was more of a "I need to unload my problems" kind of conversation and I honestly did not know what to say. I can be blunt when I am honest and I did not want to cause any harm emotionally to this person I love by spitting out the wrong thing. So what I ended up saying was to compare these two things, gave examples, and tell me which is more pressing as problems go.
The truth is, she was facing a large challenge and yet so was I but the difference is she was trying to figure out how to manage or control hers and I was trusting in the Universe to help me resolve mine but since she was unaware of mine, hers seemed the larger problem of the two. Because that is what humans do, they center on themselves and their "problems". I am not saying people are self centered, but on the other hand it is about self preservation so to some degree they can seem that way.
Flip the coin and people who are centered within themselves will tend to trust the universe and their own intuition for their preservation and try to help others do the same. Sometimes that means smacking them upside of the head with the truth. And the truth is that if you live a life with a pattern, it is the universe telling you to change your pattern for a different result, if the pattern always ends badly.
I am not always eloquent when I hit you upside the head with the truth. My bad. While I was trying to figure out how to word it to my loved one, in the moment I did the best I could. I always get the great insights after I have a moment to be still and reflect, after the fact. And so I texted her and said what I was really thinking as she told me her challenge was that I would gladly trade her for mine.
And for this one time, I sincerely would have traded her for her "problem" In reality, if we all got together and put our "problems" in a pile, odds are good you would choose the one you put in the pile to begin with. You would see that there are so many other bigger problems in the pile that yours wasn't nearly as "bad" as you thought. And at least it is a "problem" you are familiar with. And honestly it is yours and meant for your highest good.
Our purpose here, in this time and space is to grow and learn. To grow in awareness and learn that at our very center we are love and love conquers all. That the universe ALWAYS conspires in our favor and strives to show us, by what comes up for us, to show us what we need to overcome to reach our highest good and potential. And so I am:
Not always eloquent, but being honest and keeping it real since....forever.
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